If you are not given elaborate prose, just read the next statement in bold to get the gist!
WE ARE ALL BROKEN, THERE IS JUST ONE FIX!
We should all learn lessons from Harry Meghan and the British Royal Family issues. We should look beyond specifics, events and deeply examine the fundamentals that are broken to fix our own community.
We should focus on fixing ourselves as men and women, in so doing revisit our roles in community and society… let’s ask ourselves “how far have we fallen from Gods original intent?”
“If the foundations be destroyed what can the righteous do?”
HARRY ET MEGHAN
first things first
- Harry and Meghan are not right in this matter,
- Neither is the royal family is right, but two wrongs to make a right!
- We are also not right in getting on the media band wagon.
Christians, Christian leaders and mature people in society should generally be careful how we judge matters, we should think deeply about the matters at play here before we start making conclusions.
FACTS & FACTORS
There are a few things to consider in this case of Harry and Meghan beyond the obvious issues of race. There are a few factors at play within the situation at hand that we should consider altogether to make a sound judgement.
FLOODS & STORMS DESTROY STRUCTURES & FOUNDATIONS
We should realise that what we are dealing with is a “media storm and flood” and like every storm and flood it attacks structures and foundations. What is this flood eroding?
1, A FAMILY AND LEGACY
The family is the foundation of society, much damage has been done to the family structure over the decades. History has shown us that when the parent/children/ sibling dynamics are disrupted in one generation, it’s the future society that pays the price. So in such cases as this.
It is important for us to consider what damages this storm will leave in its wake…. Is it going to futher destroy this already fragile system or strengthen it?
- AN INSTITUTION
The British Society is an institution, (not a perfect one) but much of the western concept of life is based in the British culture.
Many of us live in the west, we have children here, they have a future in the west or a derivative culture, as the African Sages will say, when a child cuts a tree the elder know where the tree will land. I feel all should be able to look and see beyond this issue and help guide how and where this big tree will land, the tree we cut now always lands in the future, even if the future is just 6seconds away!
3. NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT GENERATIONAL SENTIMENTS!!!!
What many may not notice is the generational undertones in this dialogue, there is an older generation that think Harry and Meghan should
be stripped of their titles and a younger who are sympathetic to the couple. Whilst we are all getting on the racism bandwagon, what about the generations?
The generation X and Y think very differently, even though it is a very powerful undercurrent to present culture, we do not realise that a lot of what we call modern culture are more representations of generational distinctions.
SO WHAT IS THIS REALLY ABOUT?
- A “DISTURBED” AND “DISILLUSIONED “YOUTH (HARRY) TRYING TO FIND HIS WAY IN LIFE?
I didn’t mean any disrespect with this, I am pointing out the state of young men his age, given what he has been through (childhood, sibling, family trauma), Like many millennials, he is disconnected from established perceptions of culture, he is seeking definition and meaning in life.
- ANOTHER “BROKEN GIRL”WHO WAS ALSO TRAUMATIZED IN CHILDHOOD , AND DEVELOPED A “BROKEN” PERSPECTIVE?
When I use this words “broken”, “disturbed” and “disillusioned” kindly read it in context my opening paragraph. We are ALL shaped by our past and experience, there is no human on this planet who is not experiencing brokenness, including myself, this is why Christ has come to fix our broken heart and lives.
I know Meghan had a troubled childhood, she like many of us still carries these scars, I am pointing these out so we realise it is one of the cogent factors in this saga.
- AN EXPLOITATIVE MEDIA WHO ARE DRIVEN BY MONEY OVER VALUES
This is another factor we should consider, in the courts of law before the judges and jury will make a decision on any case. They would be satisfied that those who are presenting evidence are not are not compromised in anyway in their credibility, objectivity and motive.
Unfortunately, the media that is supposed to shape the conscience of the nations responds to Money and other selfish agenda for the profit of a few not the good of all.
I pointed this out to let us realise that the media in the last four years have shown themselves to be compromised on the issues relating to politics, culture and well being of society,
We see the roles they still play in keeping us conformed to a way of life and thinking that disempowers, divides and diminishes, they may have the best of intentions, not the best of outcomes
Lets take a step back from the sentiment triggers they know gets us riled to make judgments, they are very well skilled at manipulating the public jury!
This is another factor I believe is important to consider, no matter how hard it is to swallow, we are quite gullible as the public. Not by choice but by lack of it.
We have very limited options for information that shapes our decisions, we have therefore been trained through “reinforcement” to make decisions based on psychological and sentimental triggers simply because we do not all have access to the TRUTH of all situations presented to us.
This becomes a problem because, we still make judgement and decisions anyway with or without information, whenever we don’t have information we make “estimations” as you know estimations are not accurate. This is why public opinion is always based on trending sentiment rather than sound tested logic. Should this continue to be so?
- OPPORTUNISTS WHO SEEK TO TEAR DOWN THE MONARCHY AND PROFIT FINANCIALLY
Our opinions and jugdements should be precious, we must use it carefully to shape the future and not play into the hands of charlatans.
I believe this should be obvious, not all who speak for Meghan and Harry, nor the Royal HouseHold do it because they genuinely love and care for the people concerned. “They either get paid to sway our opinions or get paid from swaying our opinions”
SO WHAT IS THE CHRISTIAN THING TO DO?
The christian thing to do is to look at facts in the Light of TRUTH. Many think affirming facts is the same as truth. No!!! Truth looks deeper than the issue, beyond the sentiments emotions and quick judgement and thinks of present tense realities and future impact.
Affirming facts is not the same thing as telling truth!
IN CLOSING
Let’s remember that Marriage is a union of cultures, if the culture of the wife and husband is not compatible there is bound to be problems. Here are some facts to consider
FACT 1. Harry comes from a family that is the icon and bastion of the British (and western) lifestyle and culture, he is not just another guy on the street!
CULTURAL CONGRUENCE VS CULTURAL DISSONANCE
this is why families should do thier due diligence like Eleazer did for Isaac’s sake, I believe Harry in choosing to marry Meghan has exposed his family and its legacy to a different culture that doesn’t appreciate, respect, honour nor regard it. By this I mean, you can only appreciate, respect, honour and regard a culture that you are part of, know of, desire etc
We see Ruth saying to Naomi, “your people shall be my people, your God my God”, even though she was a stranger to the culture of Israel, her exposure to Naomi gave her a glimpse of what it was and she made a choice to choose Naomi’s people, God and ways, this was what helped her to integrate properly into Israel as Boaz wife in David’s and Jesus Ancestry.
When Abraham asked Eleazer to go get him a wife from amongst his people, it was because of “cultural congruence” we see Jacob also follow in the same footsteps, he went to his mothers people to seek out a wife, Esau was a grief to his father because he took wives from the children of the land.
I believe Harry should have counted the cost of marrying Meghan, if I remember correctly, Meghans dad and former husband did speak up then to warn about her…. he didn’t pick the cues!
I am not saying people shouldn’t marry from other cultures, this is why I used Ruth example, I am highlighting that naturally existing cultural congruence was what made Isaac and Jacobs marriage work the way it did, in the case of Ruth she choose “cultural acclimatization” to achieve cultural congruence.
FACT 2. All information required was readily available, even though not in the expected form.
THE DEVIL IS IN THE DETAIL!
Many times in marriages we don’t know how to pick up red flags that can prevent chaos in the future. When i wrote about the signals from Meghansa dad on a post. Someone responded to my statement with a retort about Meghans fathers conduct in her life, as an irresponsible dad.. i know this to be the fact, however I believe the fact that he spoke up, what he said, her history and testimony should have provided Prince Harry with enough fact for him to make a calculated assessment of what the future could be like.
I don’t believe he would have wanted to part with his family because of his wife. He is now being forced like Adam to give up his birthright because of her. Nothing wrong with this if he had already made the assessment, counted the cost and made his choice, if that were the case then we are all simply being manipulated, If not so, it shows a little near sightedness on his part.
FACT 3. Choices naturally come with consequences
I asked “why don’t they move on in peace?”
CONSIDER DADDY ADAM
Adam was already in the marriage, He knew Eves decision meant death and separation from God, he still choose to eat the fruit because he loves his wife, (even though all of us his children are still paying for their decisions).
A scripture says, “blessed is the man who does not condemn himself in what he allowed”
When mature adults make a choice we also choose the consequences. once you marry, you assume maturity and responsibility).Its not good to bring the hoary heads of their parents and grandparents to such grief… I speak not as a man of race or colour, I speak for the sake of society. He is still a son to someone, he is part of a family, he is still required to honour his parents.
To those who feel differently, put yourself in the shoes of the Windsor family, if you were the Queen, the brother, uncle, father or sister of Harry, would you like to be subjected to the public jury in such ways? We all find it very easy to talk eloquently about race, yet we are all in our own personal lives even worse discriminators of others. Because our own secret thoughts haven’t been brought on air doesn’t make us saints!
We all need to get back to a culture where we still respect godly authority, parental authority is still a very important part of divine governance. Though we have issues with PERSONS of authority, we should be careful how we deal with the ROLES of Authority.
BRITISH CULTURE ISNT PERFECT
I know the British system definitely has contributed to the breakdown of the family structure, so maybe this is what is also coming in to bite them… I leave that for God to be the judge.
CAN WE ALSO NOT BE RACIST?
We should all be careful before we jump on to the race card, There are different kinds of divisive philosophies that fracture the human society… race is one of them, both those who perpetuate it and those who respond to it continue to give the idea life!)
Racism, Classism, Sexualism, Genderism (Feminism &Chauvism) whenever we allow these cards to be played it takes our eyes off our common humanity and brokenness, it makes us take a side, this can never heal society.
I want to encourage all to play the human card, as far as the Lord God is concerned there is only one human race, he has only varied our body features not to differentiate us but reveal his richness, creativity, attention to detail and create a system where we all need one another..
I don’t believe in black, I believe there are Africans and we have something to offer the world… the question is “what does that look like?”
Shalom
EUGENE A AJAYI
